Again, though the evolving times may have brought about a relaxation in this rule, it is still followed by many youngsters. I'll paste a URL with links to all of them at the end of this message. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints teaches that all sexual relationships outside of marriage defined as the legal union between a man and a woman are sinful. Dont aggressively try to destroy her faith but bring up philosophical thinking points. Do you think I need to have some sort of commitment from him before I can make that decision. She still has another year of residency but I am hoping she chooses a specialty that is not as demanding on her time. But realistically, if she is not open minded enough to even listen to someone who has a contrasting view of the church - how will she not continually discount you and your lack of beliefs. It would likely be seen as a trial in her life. I forgot to add, that if you marry and alow your children to be raised as Mormon, chances are you wont be able to be at their wedding because it will be in the temple.
I also think that if marriage outside the covenant is a sin, it is not so grave as to be unforgivable. Given the fact that doctors, esp surgeons, have a very busy life in US, it seems logical. Your attempts at being funny or lightening the mood may backfire, and your date may be put off. However her husband joined the church a few years after their marriage. I can't emphasize this strongly enough.
While you will be of the right age to date, the Church discourages you from trying to date someone while on your mission trip. So how do we approach saving a relationship with someone who has unrealistic expectations of what a long-term relationship looks like. Marriage is simply not an option to me there. I chose to get married and move across the state to live with my husband and left my job, family and friends and let me tell you, it's been tremendously difficult to meet new friends in the new town. I've been doing it wrong. By the way, I have had to get another job to help make ends meet. After residency, depending on what specialty they do, there will be a separate set of rules of how they have to give their time oncall, early surgery times, working holidays etc. If you can only think of alcohol and coffee for a good time, you're very disappointed.
That said, I like to hope that love can be more powerful than belief. He is studying to get into a residency program and I struggle to get his time. You should expect that this will define your relationship with her. I can honestly say this isn't worth it. Think of every possible scenario you can think of. Honestly, I don't have very good advice, but keep being you and hopefully she won't let her religion blind her like it blinded me. She will not marry you until you convert to mormonism whole cloth. I do nearly all of the parenting fortunately we only have one child -- we both agree that this lifestyle is too demanding for more and find that my husband's crazy hours and the energy drain of the job make me yearn to connect with other wives that relate. Do you have any specific suggestions for discussion about content on LDS.