God knows the big picture. The point to this story is that when he had any free time he wanted to spend it with me. I cooked every meal…… My husband went to work…being a god to his patients. It's the sort of super dismissive "all women are the same" attitude that I learned in church and left to get away from. If you do end up having sexual relations, she will feel guilty, and it will affect your relationship, you can count on that. It interrupts meals, sleep, shopping trips, conversations, romantic time, and even fights.
Work out as many as you can before marriage happens. Being the first in his family to make it, he now supports the lives of those who didn't. If you remain active, Church service is very demanding of our lives в not a Sunday thing. Among Mormons, 25 is practically an old maid. I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this. She may never join the join the church. I am trying so hard to be understanding but the time when I could discuss my fears with him are well and truly gone. To others making this consideration, I would certainly suggest that you converse with your Father in Heaven about this important choice. It's unfair to assume that she feels that way without asking her.
Unless you have some super amazing other dating prospect there isn't a huge reason to cut this relationship off now. Can I add to this extremely old thread. He came to be by my side as soon as he could. The divorce factor may allow some women to experience single-faith marriage at some point as some Mormon men marry multiple Mormon women over the course of their lifetimes, but the overall point stands: The only options for these women involve seeking a partner outside of the church, or a lifetime of celibacy. I am engaged to marry a surgeon next fall. That's okay, but it means your not a match. She will be oh-so-grateful if you do not pressure her to discard those values. Find someone who is available to you and successful.
Thank you for pointing this out. His single doctor friends have so much more time and money to spend on lavish overseas holidays and recreational activities, while every spare moment the husband has to spend at home, helping with the children and all the responsibilities that entails. Her brain has been wired from birth by said cult. We have been married a mere 3. These exclusions, dictated by doctrine, hold the potential to create wedges between you, both immediately, and in the long term. With that being said, I have long considered myself just a tad outside super TBM since we watched Game of Thrones, drank energy drinks, and occasionally stayed in my running clothes sans garments to do yard work. Whatever your leaders have said, consider their counsel, give it the weight it deserves, then counsel with your Heavenly Father about your own situation. Lack of motivation and endless loneliness that has caused me to be a lazy 15 pounds heavier woman. On the other hand, if you believe God is bigger than we can imagine, and is not constrained by religious dogma, you have as good a chance as any at a happy, thriving relationship. He is truly my best friend, my life partner but I can't help, at times, feel extremely lonely and depressed.