So basically we were lies to for years. Personally I have a rule that I will not enter a relationship with a believing Mormon. Mormonism is fundamental to my religious beliefs and my personal sense of identity, and it is the community that I identify with most strongly. Right off the bat, I have to admit that being married and committed to our marriage has been of utmost importance for my husband and I - throughout all of his training. If I had one thing to add, mixed race marriages are quite similar. So, guess whatŠ² We stopped. My religious faith saved my sanity but I still worry. Honestly I'd let things keep going. We have been married for a little over 3 years.
My mom was a single mother with a lower than average income working full time so she understood that aspect. Ive realized for the most part they are just too proudful and do not treat women very get. She didn't tell anyone because her own lack self worth and shame petrified her to do anything about it. Children thrive on clarity and consistency. I let her know it's not healthy to expect someone else to change - we can only control ourselves and not others. This is how I felt when I married my exmo husband. My beliefs have changed several times in my life, but not those things, so my interfaith marriage has lasted 25 years. She cannot get into the top echelons of heaven without being sealed to a worthy priesthood holder in the temple for time and all eternity. I can accept her, and she's told me she can accept me The challenging part for me now is the idea of putting my kids through the brainwashing.
It's a great idea to know where you stand so that you'll be prepared when this comes up in conversation. Her attempts to convert you will get stronger and stronger, if you make it clear to her that you will not under any circumstances convert, she'll bounce. And as much as I love my boyfriend with my whole heart, I can see now that sadly maybe I might have to reconsider a life married to him. Sadly, my ward shuns us. It's called selfishness and inability to set priorities. As someone born and raised in the church this has been very difficult to moderate and there is some social pressure to become more involved. And no one has the right to judge you for your decision. Keep me posted, please. And once you are done with those, ask about social issues and where she stands.
I'd just like to add that unless you're happy being with her as a full believing Mormon, don't stick around in the hopes that she'll de-convert. I wish I could let go of our love as easily as he has, but I just can't. She went ahead a married a non member. It broke my shelf, we left as an entire family, and our marriage is better than ever. Well if she knew or ever found out, in her eyes you'll be a loathsome perverted deviant in need of sex addiction counseling.
